Showing posts with label Advice. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Advice. Show all posts

This Video Will Make You Think - "This is Water"

I love this video.  It's called, "This is Water."  One of the blogs that I follow, The Bloggess, mentioned this in a post, and I thought it was worth re-sharing with everyone here.  I plan to add this to "part 2" of advice and life lessons I want to pass on to my daughter.



Link:  This is Water

6 Types of People Who Do Not Deserve to Hear Your Shame Story - Web Favorite


Are you opening up and sharing your "shame stories" with with the wrong types of people, or friends, in your life?

Think before you speak, and make sure that the next person you share your "shame story" with truly has your best interest at heart.  In the YouTube video below, Oprah Winfery interviews Dr. Brené Brown and discusses how there are six types of people with whom you shouldn't share your "shame" story with (from "one-upper" friend to the women at the mall that you try to prove yourself to and more).  She talks about the dangers of sharing your most vulnerable self with the wrong people.  This is very interesting , and is great advice to keep in mind.  I'll definitely be including this in the "part 2" of my post, Top 35 Life Lessons, Wisdom, and Advice for Daughters and for Yourself.  

I think this is good advice, and I highly recommend watching the video.

Here is the YouTube clip of Dr. Brené Brown and Oprah discussing the six types of people that you shouldn't share your shame story with:



YouTube Link:  6 Types of People Who Do Not Deserve to Hear Your Shame Story



Dr. Brené Brown is the author of the following books:

  • Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead 
  • The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are
  • I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn't): Making the Journey from "What Will People Think?" to "I Am Enough"

           


Share your thoughts on sharing "shame stories" by commenting below.  
(I would love to hear your insight!)

Mommy Hack - Matching Socks and Laundry Time


Mommy Hack:  Standardize Your Socks and Eliminate the Pain of Sock-Matching On Laundry Day

Buy a bunch of the same exact sock type to prevent the pain of matching socks.  (I had to save up my money for a couple months, but it was worth it).  Do this for your kids as well.  I'm sure  that you've heard of this hack before, but I am here to personally endorse this.  Thank you, Pinterest.  If you only wear a small variety of sock types - for example, ankle socks, crew cut, black/white, etc., then get a tub for each type of sock.  I have a tub in my closet for my (a) black work socks, (b) white socks, and (c) dress shoe socks.  I never have to match my socks when doing laundry, and the only sorting that I have to do is separate the socks into the three bins.  You can find great sock-bins in the Dollar Aisle at Target.

This is the greatest thing that I have done for myself lately.  It's changed my laundry life.  Now, don't get me wrong, I still use my Pack N Play as my laundry bin (see the post My Pack N Play Confessions for more on that),  but this little mommy hack has helped a lot when it comes to sorting laundry for my daughter and me.
It's your turn!
What "hack" do you use that 
makes your daily chores easier? 
Share it with us by commenting on this post!






Break a Bad Habit by Changing Your Password



Create Passwords That Help You Break a Bad Habit

Have a bad habit that you want to quit?  I read an article on Lifehacker.com that suggests an idea how helping you quit a bad habit by generating passwords that reinforce that idea.  The idea is that you reinforce an idea in your brain through repetitive typing.  Most people type in passwords for their various online and computer accounts (bank, email, computer login, etc.)  multiple times a day; so if you create a password that has a personal goal of yours built into it somehow, then this can help you to quit a bad habit by reinforcing that idea in your brain through repetitive typing.  

So, instead of making a password such as "baseball1234" or using your previous telephone number as your password (which is a terrible idea), consider making your password something that can help reinforce breaking a bad habit; the example that Lifehacker uses is "Iwillquit$smoking."


Here are some of my ideas for passwords that I should create for myself but won't because that would be stupid seeing as I this is a public post:  


  • "Iwill$tartworkingout"
  • "Iwillstopusingthepacknplayasalaundryhamper"
  • "I-will-stop-eating-pecan-bar$-for-dinner"
  • "I-will-stop-wearing-my-maternity-pants-to-work-because-my-child-I-am-not-pregnant-and-my-child-is-almost-2-years-old"
  • "Iwillstopwastingmoneyoncrappytupperwarecontainers"
  • "I-will-stop-blaming-my-tiredness-on-my-newborn-because-my-child-is-2-years-old-and-I-am-actually-tired-because-I-play-on-Pinterest-until-1-AM" 

Realistically, I probably won't give up wearing my maternity pants.  I love comfy pants way too much (see My Love Letter to Yoga Pants for more on that).
"Your net worth to the world is usually determined by what remains after your bad habits are subtracted from your good ones."   - Benjamin Franklin
(uh oh)


What are your bad habits?

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This Post Inspired by: Source: http://lifehacker.com/audible-newspapers-yahoo-weather-and-yard-lights-493214717



You're Gonna Miss This - A Reminder for Parents

"I wish there was a way to know that you're in the good ole days before you have actually left them," said Andy Bernard on 'The Office' Series Finale. Andy then says, "Someone should write a song about that." Well, someone (actually, a lot of people) have written a song about that: To start with is the song, "You're Gonna Miss This," by Trace Adkins.

Life just isn't that long. In the wise words of Trace Adkins, "You're gonna miss this; you're gonna want this back. You're gonna wish these days hadn't gone by so fast. These are some good times, so take a good look around. You may not know it now, but you're gonna miss this...". Thank you Trace Adkins.


The song, "You're Gonna Miss This," always reminds me to appreciate and live in the moment, because one day, I am going to miss this - I am going to miss walking in my daughter's room in the morning and seeing her smiling face as she stands up, grabbing onto the crib rail, saying, "Mamaaa!" in the most excited and adorable voice in the world.  When she's 13-years-old and "cuts the umbilical cord," so to say (aka, starts caring about her friends more than her mommy, like I did to my poor mom), I am going to miss this.  I'm going to want this back, and I'm going to wish these days hadn't gone by so fast.  

Life goes by too quickly.  I'm 26-years-old, and I already see it.  I need to remember this the next time I start complaining.  Don't get me wrong: I am still going to complain, but remembering that I'm going to miss this will help me remember that I don't actually always mean what it is that I am complaining about. 




"You're Gonna Miss This," by Trace Adkins




MORE GREAT SONGS WITH SIMILAR THEMES:


"It Won't Be Like This For Long," by Darius Rucker


"It won't be like this for long...one day that little girl is gonna be all grown-up and gone."




"My Wish," by Rascal Flatts


Grandma "Mia" sent us a message the other day, saying how much she loved the lyrics to the song, "My Wish," by Rascal Flatts.  I couldn't agree more.


"I Hope You Dance," by Ronan Keating


"I hope you still feel small when you stand beside the ocean.  Whenever one door closes, I hope one more opens..."

"And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance, I hope you dance..."


"The Good Stuff," by Kenny Chesney


"It's a new t-shirt saying, 'I'm a Grandpa!'"





"I'll Stand By You," by Carrie Underwood



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Top 35 Life Lessons - From Mother to Daughter

35 Life Lessons, Wisdom and Advice for my Child

Below is a list of 35 of my favorite life lessons, and pieces of wisdom, that I've heard (and not always listened to but usually wish that I had) throughout my life.   This list of advice comes from a wide variety of sources: from my grandparents...to Oprah...to complete strangers who have an unusually great perspective on life.  I'm always thankful to find this advice handy in my memory, and I'd like it to be prevalent in my life.  Most of all, I want this advice to be accessible to my daughter as she gets old - and that is the reason that I created this post.

35 Lessons to Pass On 
To Your Daughter

1.  Don't give someone a "hammer" to hit you over the head with.  

This is a figure of speech.  My grandfather told this to my mom while she was growing up - what it means is to be careful with what you do, say and share with people.  You don't want something that you have done, or said, to one day come back and bite you (or, rather, to come back as the "hammer" (so to speak) that hits you over the head later on down the road).  

2.  Before you speak, picture whatever it is that you are about to say on the chalkboard in front of your classroom with your name underneath it, or on Facebook.  

Do you still want to say it?

3.  Beware of the unintended consequences of gossiping.  

Before you indulge in gossiping about other people behind their back(s), beware of the impression that you may be giving off to the people who are listening to you.  Keep in mind that the person(s) that you are talking to may then start wondering what you say behind her own back and they may re-consider your potential loyalty as a friend.

4.  "You wouldn't care so much about what other people thought of you if you knew how little that they really did." 

Yes. Ok, fine! This piece of advice is quoted from Dr. Phil; and yes, I admit it - I used to enjoy watching "Dr. Phil".  Remember to tell yourself that you would not care what other people thought about you if you truly knew how little that they actually do think about you.  When you're worried about what other people think of you, tell yourself this:  "Other people aren't paying as much attention to me as I am, so I shouldn't worry about every little thing I do."  Most of the time, people are thinking about themselves - not you.

5. Let go of what you can't change, and don't worry about things that you have no control over.


More importantly, learn how to identify what these things look like in your life (e.g., the weather, your test results, etc.), because putting your energy into something that you can't change or control is a waste of time, energy, and sleep; and it will drain you.

6.  You can never be happy with someone else until you are happy with yourself.  

7.  Remember that not everyone is going to like you, and that some people are just mean for no apparent reason.  

Some people get their "psychological jollies" out of making you feel sad and down because then it makes them feel better about themselves. Don't lose sleep over getting "in" with the "cool" crowd.  Exude confidence (not arrogance); remember that you teach people how to treat you; and then, friends will follow from there.

8.  Be kind to other people.

You have no idea what those next to you may be going through in their own lives.  "Don't judge a man until you've walked two moons in his shoes" (this is a quote from a book that I read in 4th grade called "Walk Two Moons"); this means that you cannot judge a man until you've 'walked' at least 2-days (or, rather, "2-moons") in 'his shoes.'  (Walk Two Moons is a great book to read with your child to encourage empathy).

9.  Do not cry at work.  

Crying is perfectly fine, but try not to cry at work (easier said, than done).  If you do cry, DO NOT make a scene.

10.  Remember that there's always someone out there who has it worse than you do.

Any time there is a situation where you don't get your way, remember that there are people in this world that never even had the opportunity.

11.  When you're wrong, apologize.  

Apologizing does not always mean that you were wrong and the other person was right. Sometimes it just means that you value the relationship more than your ego. 

12.  Here are the steps to a real apology:

  • Fully acknowledge the offense - acknowledge what you are sorry about.
  • Offer a truthful explanation as to why your behavior occurred   Do not offer an excuse - excuses merely deflect blame.
  • Offer a genuine expression of remorse. Do NOT say, "I'm sorry that you feel that way...." - that is a bogus apology that should be saved only for people who deserve it.
  • Ask what you can do to make things better, and then listen to what they say, and make sure that they know that you are listening.
(These steps were inspired by Oprah's article on The Right Way to Apologize).


13.  To be 'wise' means that you are able to admit when you don't know the answer.  

My dad taught me this:  don't pretend to know the answer to something if you don't.  Saying, "I don't know," is far better than pretending and potentially having people notice that you are B.S.ing - trust me, this will make you look like a much bigger idiot than simply not knowing the answer.  If you don't know the answer, but still want to contribute to the conversation, then you can say, "Well, if I had to make an educated guess, it would be....".

14.  If you need help, then you need to ask for it.  

I learned this lesson the hard way at my first job out of college.  

15.  Never date a man who is rude to waiters, or mean to animals.

16.  Learn how to laugh at yourself.  

You're going to look like an ass at some (actually, many) point(s) in your life.  You will look like less of an ass if you're able to laugh at yourself about whatever it is that you did.

17.  Remember that there is always something to be thankful for.

18.  Never try to solve problems at night.  

All problems seem worse at night, and everything seems like a bigger deal when you are tired.  Go to sleep.  The problem will probably not be as big of a deal in the morning.   (If you're tired and you've been drinking, you're probably wrong anyway about whatever it is that you're saying/arguing about - so again, just go to sleep, and deal with it in the morning!).  

19.  When you have a crisis and feel like your life is over, remember this advice that my grandfather used to say to my mom:  
  • 1 month from now, you won't be hurting as badly.  
  • 6-months from now, you probably won't even be thinking about it.  
  • 5-years from now, you might not even remember it.

20. What we see depends mainly on what we look for. So focus on where you want to be - not on where you don’t want to go.

My first time snowboarding was a nightmare - I skipped the "Bunny Hill" and arrogantly decided to start my first snow-boarding experience at the top of Vail mountain (a terrible idea for a first-time snow-boarder), and despite my extreme fear of running into a tree as I went down the Blue Diamond ski slope, I still found myself, time and time again, tangled up in the trees on the side of the mountain, struggling to get out of the white powder and back on the smoother snow trail.   Then, a wise man in a blue snow-suit gave me wonderful words of advice, “Keep your eyes focused on where you want to go (which was the chair lift) – and not on where you don’t want to go (which was the trees at the side of the mountain)."  Before he pointed this out to me, I had been so focused on not running into the trees on the side of the mountain that my eyes were literally focused on that stupid forest.  So then, I took his advice, and I changed my focus and kept my eyes on the chair-lift at the bottom of the mountain.  And guess what?   It worked.  This new mentality magically re-programmed my body and brought me to the chairlift (with no stops at the stupid trees).  Don't get me wrong: I still fell on my butt a lot on my way to the chairlift, but that was way better than ending up wrapped around the trunk of a pine tree under a pile of snow!  I think this advice is a great analogy that can cross-over to our real, everyday life.  Keep your focus on where you want to be - not your fears.






21.  Never try to figure to out how you should solve a problem; focus on what you want the end result to be and then make decisions that you will help you get there.  (Thank you, Dad.)


22.  If you can’t sleep, fake it.  

This advice was given to me by my daughter’s pediatrician (a woman that I never thought I would be quoting) the day that my daughter was born.  Her pediatrician was emphasizing to me the importance of sleep for moms with a newborn.   The reason she said this is because I had just expressed to her that I didn't know if I could follow the advice that I had been given to “sleep when the baby sleeps” (which is, by the way, the most annoying advice EVER because 100+ people told me this after my baby was born).  I didn't understand how I would ever be able to change my sleep schedule, let alone be able to sleep sporadically throughout the middle of the day (as newborns nap every 2 hours).  But guess what? This advice is great (at least for me).  Even if you can’t fall asleep, "faking it" is the next best thing because resting has adds a considerable amount of value to the recharging of your mind and body too.  The dishes can wait.

23.  If you’re having trouble solving a problem after repeated attempts, then try a different approach.  

According to some references, the definition of "insanity" is "doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results."  Try going about it in a different way.

24.  If you don’t have time to do it right the first time, then when are you going to have time to do it over?  

Don't rush through an important task.  Don’t "half-ass" it.   If it's difficult to do now, then it's going to be even more annoying to go back and fix later.

25.  Surround yourself with people who build you up.  

Surround yourself with people who see greatness within you, even when you don't see it yourself.

26.  If you’re ever having trouble making conversation with other people, ask them about themselves.  

People like talking about themselves (and/or their kids).

27.  Only eat french fries that are hot and crispy and fresh.  

My dad (who is kind of a health nut) instilled this idea in me growing up; I'm not a health nut, but I appreciate the logic behind this - if you’re going to eat something that’s bad for you, then do it right and make sure it tastes good!  When you place your order, give the server a big smile and ask if you can wait for a fresh batch of french fries.  If I'm going to get fatter from something - it better taste good.

28.  The best time to relax is when you don’t have time for it.

29.  Always bring chap-stick and a bottle of water to a job interview.  

Nothing is worse than a dry mouth and/or chapped lips when you're trying to talk someone into hiring you.

30.  The Middle School (aka, Junior High) and High School phases suck for most girls.  Remember that Middle School and High School are just short phases of your life.

The Middle School and High School crowd can be just plain mean.  The social torture that many of us experience during our awkward Middle School and High School phases seems like a very cruel "right of passage" before we enter the best part of the rest of our lives - young adulthood.   The "college phase" is so much better - if not the best.

31.  Writing down your worries on paper before a big exam or a big presentation at work can help you relieve anxiety and help you perform better.


32.  Never reply when you are angry.  Never make a promise when you are happy.  Never make a decision when you are sad.


33.  If you don't want anyone to find out, don't do it.


34.  Happiness is a choice - a choice to live your life with a certain state of mind.  

Happiness usually doesn't just come to you - at least not after childhood ends.  You often have to fight for happiness.  Remember that you are in charge of how you feel.  Think happy.  Be happy. 
  • "Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony." Mahatma Gandhi
  • "It is only possible to live happily ever after on a daily basis." Margaret Bonanno
  • "Mistakes will be made. Failure will occur. You pick yourself up and carry on."  - Elizabeth Gilbert.

35.  Follow your passion for your career.  

To my daughter: My wish for you is that you follow what you are passionate about, because that is what you will be good at.




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Top Humidifiers for Baby (Easy-to-Use)

Top Cool Mist Humidifiers for Baby, Toddlers, and Preschools
In our post, Top 20 Items to Have On Hand This Flu Season, we talk about all of the items that you should have on-hand in case baby gets sick.  This post focuses exclusively on baby-safe humidifiers,  After great research and several failed attempts to find an effective, easy-to-use, safe, non-noisy, easy-to-fill, cool-mist humidifier for my newborn and toddler, I have, at last, narrowed it down to two different humidifiers (from different brands) that meet all of the above criteria: the Remedies Cool Mist Ultrasonic Humidifier With Colored LED Lights and the Crane Ultrasonic Cool Mist Humidifier.  these are my conclusions as to the best humidifiers to use for your baby, toddler, or preschooler.  Please share with us your favorite humidifier for baby by commenting below! 




1.   Crane Ultrasonic Cool Mist Humidifier - Hippo

Crane Ultrasonic Cool Mist Humidifier - Hippo

Link:  Crane Ultrasonic Cool Mist Humidifier






2.   Remedies Cool Mist Ultrasonic Humidifier with Colored LED Lights
Remedies Cool Mist Ultrasonic Humidifier with Colored LED Lights
Link:   Remedies Cool Mist Ultrasonic Humidifier With Colored LED Lights








Both humidifiers are:
  • Effective at easing my child's cold symptoms
  • Easy-to-use
  • Filter-free
  • Easy to clean! (compared to other humidifiers)
  • Easy to refill tanks (both the tanks fit in my small bathroom sink)
  • Quiet operation (unlike the Vick's brand humidifiers that I have used)
  • Non-ugly
  • Small, yet still offers a 12-hour operation when used on a medium setting
  • Cool-Mist
  • Reasonably-priced

Tip:  

The  Crane Ultrasonic Cool Mist Humidifier is available in the DROP SHAPE (see the bottom of post for an example of the drop-shape) at Target and Wal-Mart (in-store), whereas I have only been able to find the Remedies Cool Mist Ultrasonic Humidifier With Colored LED Lights  online or ship-to-store.  So if you're baby is sick right now, I would most definitely go head to Wal-Mart or Target instead of waiting for the Crane Ultrasonic Cool Mist Humidifier to be shipped to you.  


IMPORTANT:  You will not find the  Crane Ultrasonic Cool Mist Humidifier in the typical humidifier section at Target or Wal-Mart (it is NOT located in the section with the adult humidifiers); you must go to the baby section and you can usually find it near the baby-proofing items.



Other Findings:


I did find a good number of moms who recommended the Vicks V4500 FilterFree Humidifier (shown below), because this model features Vicks Vapor Therapy with an integrated scent pad heater.  I bought this model when I was in a pinch and needed a humidifier for my sick child fast, and found this is my local Wal-Mart.  
Vicks V4500 FilterFree Humidifier
Link:  
Vicks V4500 FilterFree Humidifier

I personally found the Vicks V4500 Humidifier to be noisy, difficult to clean, and its tank was difficult to refill in my bathroom sink (I had to use my bath tub). All of that outweighed the Vick's Vapor therapy feature for me.


All-in-all:


All humidifiers out there are annoying to deal with on some level because you have to clean them regularly and refill them daily.  The  Remedies Cool Mist Ultrasonic Humidifier With Colored LED Lights and the Crane Cool Mist Humidifiers  have been, in my experience, the two humidifiers that will be the least pain in your bum;  this is based on my own trial and error, my research on discussion forums and online reviews, and also my research on Babycenter.com; my research indicates that most other moms out there agree with me.  




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FuNote:  

My top favorite humidifiers also come in other fun colors:



Crane Drop Shape Cool Mist Humidifier 
Crane Drop Shape Cool Mist Humidifier 
Link: Crane Drop Shape Cool Mist Humidifier 


(More colors available for the Crane Cool Mist Humidifier.)





Crane Drop Shape Cool Mist Animal Humidifiers
Crane Drop Shape Cool Mist Humidifier 
Link:  Crane Ultrasonic Cool Mist Humidifier



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