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8 Easy Ideas To Make Yourself Happy, When Skies Are Grey


Here are 8 ideas to make yourself happy, when skies are “grey.” These are basically ideas on how you can help turn your mood around, when you need to. Here is the list:  


1.  Make yourself amazing food – such as ‘crostinis.’


If you are obsessed with food the way that I am (aka, your true inner-self is a gigantic fatso and good food makes you very, very happy), then I highly recommend these crostini recipes from Real Simple magazine.  Holy. Party. That. My. Taste. Buds. Can’t. Even. Handle. Right. Now.


Here is the link to 10 absolutely amazing crostini recipes (from Real Simple Magazine) that I have broken down into my top 3 favorites:

  • The Roast Beef and Pomegranate Crostini is to die for…this is my favorite…except that I used goat cheese instead of the sour cream that the recipe calls for (I am obsessed with goat cheese).
  • The Ricata and Roasted Tomato recipe from Real Simple is amazing…
  • The Pesto, Radish, and Sea Salt Crostini recipe from Real Simple is “whaaaaaat!?!?!??” (meaning – so good!)

2.  Take a hot bath (bring wine!)


Before bedtime, take a hot bath.  Bring wine.  Find a candle and light it. Turn off the bathroom lights.  Oh yeah, and bring wine or water).  I like to bring both wine and a tall glass of iced water for after my bath.  I started doing this routine every night after I got my daughter into a “bedtime routine.”  I used to have trouble sleeping, but as soon as I do my own, mommy, bedtime routine, I am out in 2-minutes by the end of it.  


3.  Don’t try to solve your life’s problems at nighttime.  Wait until morning – when you are fresh.


Do not try to solve problems at nighttime.  And do not argue at nighttime (See Top 35 Life Lessons to Pass On To Daughters, and remember this advice!)



4.  Utilize the power of music – make a playlist of all the songs you loved when you were younger.


Make a playlist of the music that you loved while you were in Junior High (Middle School) and High School and listen to it.  I’d be lying if I said that the song “Bye Bye Bye,” by N’Sync didn’t make me really, really happy.

5.  If you are in a bad mood, consider the alignment of the “stars” (aka: could it be hormones?).

Ask yourself if you could possibly be PMSing, or if any sort of hormonal changes (fertilization drugs, pregnancy, miscarriage, menopause) could be causing your mood to change.  Sometimes I forget how much PMS can effect me (no, “Mr. Mia,” this is not an EXCUSE…it is REAL!!!), and it’s not until my PMS is over that I realize why I felt like such a nut-case. Learn how to identify PMS (for instance, track your period). 


If you are PMSing, then your hormones will have a field day reading You’re Gonna Miss This – A Reminder for Parents.

If you are a male who suspects that your significant other may be suffering from PMS, then I highly suggest that you consider tracking your wife’s menstrual cycles through an iPhone app (or any smartphone app) to arm and protect yourself with this information when the time comes (TIP: DO NOT TELL HER THAT YOU ARE DOING THIS…ESPECIALLY IF SHE IS ALREADY PMSing, OR YOU MAY BECOME HER NEXT VICTIM).  


If you have irregular periods, like me, then if and when I start crying at a Subaru commercial, for example, then I try to make a mental (no pun intended) note to myself that I may be a bat-shit crazy person for the next few days. (SIDE NOTE and IN MY DEFENSE: the Subaru commercial that I am referring to has a young daughter that suddenly phases from a 7-year-old with pigtails into an 18-year-old leaving her home for college….all the while her dad is standing outside of the Subaru, with his loving father eyes – wanting her to be careful and she drives away in the Subaru).  The commercial is adorable.  See the commercial that makes me cry when I am PMSing below:




  • Rule of Thumb:  If a commercial makes you cry (as touching as they can be), then your hormones may be deceiving you, and you should check yourself (and your hormone levels) for potential discrepancies.  You may owe the guy at the first window of the Burger King drive-thru an apology; because you may, or may not have, un-rightfully, given the poor guy an attitude for not remembering that you ordered a medium, instead of a small, Whopper Jr. value meal.
  • I make a mental note to myself that I may be bat-shit crazy for the next 3-days, and I try not to let the fact that “Mr. Mia” left his dirty dinner play on the floor for the 100,000,010th time.


6.  Put down your computer, and go outside.  


Get away from your computer!  Yeah!  I’m talking to you!  Put down your phone!  Computers and the internet (Facebook) can make you feel like total poo when you compare yourself with “Mrs. Jones”…at the very least, you will probably end up with a cramp in your neck by the time you eventually emerge from the hypnotism of Facebook.  If the weather doesn’t permit outside activity  then try to get out; go anywhere (even Walmart).  If it is nighttime and you need to stay at home, refer to my above idea and TAKE A BATH.




7.  Get lost in a book.  


Ask someone, whose taste you trust, for a book recommendation (I always ask my mom).  Here are some of my favorite books that have, historically, captured me to the point where I always forgot whatever miserable occurrence was lingering in my life at the time at the time (e.g., first-trimester nausea, dark winter days, etc.):

  • Feeling Saucy?  Read a Romantic Book by Nicholas Sparks
  • Feeling Bored?  Read a Thriller:  Gone Girl: A Novel by Gillian Flynn
  • Feeling Sentimental?  Read a book on Friendship: Firefly Lane by Kristin Hannah
  • Are you a lover of man’s best friend (aka, “dogs”)?  Read, “The Art of Racing in the Rain” by Garth Stein.


    8.  Watch this video (put in on the “full screen” mode option…it makes it so much better.”)

    This video will make you sniff-sniff with tears of happiness, and if you have a pet – you might want to go hug the little booger after watching this.  


    Lion Reunited with Owner:

    This makes me want to run with my dog in a meadow and hug her fat little puggle head.  (Warning: If you are indeed pregnant, PMSing, or have another hormonal imbalance (such as menopause), then this video may make you cry…but you will be crying with tears of joy and happiness and you will want to hug an animal afterwards.

    If by the end of completing these tasks you find yourself singing in the shower, then you have likely succeeded in your pursuit of happiness.


    What methods do you use 
    to boost you mood?  



    Break a Bad Habit by Changing Your Password


    Create Passwords That Help You Break a Bad Habit

    Have a bad habit that you want to quit?  I read an article on Lifehacker.com that suggests an idea how helping you quit a bad habit by generating passwords that reinforce that idea.  The idea is that you reinforce an idea in your brain through repetitive typing.  Most people type in passwords for their various online and computer accounts (bank, email, computer login, etc.)  multiple times a day; so if you create a password that has a personal goal of yours built into it somehow, then this can help you to quit a bad habit by reinforcing that idea in your brain through repetitive typing.  

    So, instead of making a password such as “baseball1234 or using your previous telephone number as your password (which is a terrible idea), consider making your password something that can help reinforce breaking a bad habit; the example that Lifehacker uses is “Iwillquit$smoking.”

    Here are some of my ideas for passwords that I should create for myself but won’t because that would be stupid seeing as I this is a public post:  

    • “Iwill$tartworkingout”
    • “Iwillstopusingthepacknplayasalaundryhamper”
    • “I-will-stop-eating-pecan-bar$-for-dinner”
    • “I-will-stop-wearing-my-maternity-pants-to-work-because-my-child-I-am-not-pregnant-and-my-child-is-almost-2-years-old”
    • “Iwillstopwastingmoneyoncrappytupperwarecontainers”
    • “I-will-stop-blaming-my-tiredness-on-my-newborn-because-my-child-is-2-years-old-and-I-am-actually-tired-because-I-play-on-Pinterest-until-1-AM” 

    Realistically, I probably won’t give up wearing my maternity pants.  I love comfy pants way too much (see My Love Letter to Yoga Pants for more on that).

    “Your net worth to the world is usually determined by what remains after your bad habits are subtracted from your good ones.”   – Benjamin Franklin

    (uh oh)

    What are your bad habits?

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    This Post Inspired by: Source: http://lifehacker.com/audible-newspapers-yahoo-weather-and-yard-lights-493214717

    Funny Books that Will Make (Almost) Any Pregnant Woman Laugh

    I felt like a dinosaur during my third trimester (a dinosaur with a lot of gas…see more about how I felt like a dinosaur during pregnancy at My 3rd Trimester of Pregnancy – Thunk! Thunk! Here I Come!), and I just wanted someone who could empathize with me about how fat my feet were and how much they hurt. Two books that kept my sense of humor [somewhat] alive at the end of my pregnancy were written by two different woman, Jenny McCarthy and Vicki Iovine, who offer two refreshing perspectives on the realities of pregnancy, and they are not “too polite to complain or too embarrassed to talk about the discomforts and humiliations of pregnancy.”

    2 Funny Books That Will Make 
    (Almost) Any Pregnant Woman Laugh


    Belly Laughs, by Jenny McCarthy

    Link:  Belly Laughs: The Naked Truth about Pregnancy and Childbirth


    Belly Laughs: The Naked Truth about Pregnancy and Childbirth reveals all the joys and sweet discoveries of being pregnant, from puking bouts and hormonal rage to hemorrhoids, pregnant sex, and big ol’ granny underpants. McCarthy draws from her own difficult pregnancy to discuss every stage of expectant motherhood in vivid, sometimes excruciating — and excruciatingly funny — detail. Belly Laughs is a must-read for any woman who is pregnant, has ever been pregnant, or hopes to become pregnant.




    The Girlfriends’ Guide to Pregnancy, by Vicki Iovine

    Link:  The Girlfriends’ Guide to Pregnancy

    The author of The Girlfriends’ Guide to Pregnancy talks to you the way only a best friend can – from what to expect at doctor visits all the way to husbands and their lack of usefulness (at least at time).



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    19 Baby Gifts With a Twist of Humor

    19 Cute Baby Gifts With a Twist of Humor

    I’ve been trying to limit my baby product recommendations to practical items, but I recently decided that funny, humor-based newborn and baby gifts deserved attention too.  Below is a list of funny newborn and baby gifts that I, personally, find to be funny and/or adorably and ridiculously cute.  If you are looking for a baby gift for someone that has a sense of humor, then you might enjoy this list. Keep in mind that whether you find some of these items funny (or not) is largely dependent on your type of humor.


    19 Funny Baby Gifts

    1.   Tuxedo Onesie Bodysuit

    Link:   Frenchie Mini Couture Onesie Bodysuit, Tuxedo 


    Funny Because…..Because a baby wearing a tuxedo is funny.  
    For a more practical list of newborn and baby clothing items, see Top 12 Must-Have Newborn and Baby Clothes.

    2.   Goodnight iPad

    Link:   Goodnight iPad: a Parody for the next generation 

    Funny Because…I probably don’t need to explain why this is funny.  This is a funny parody on the book “Goodnight Moon,” that any tech-savvy family can appreciate.  For a more practical list of favorite baby books, see Top 10 Baby Books for Baby’s First Years.

    3.   Monsters Eat Whiny Children – Book
    Link:   Monsters Eat Whiny Children 


    Funny Because…Because monsters don’t really actually eat whiny children.  This for those with a darker sense of humor, and for kids with a good grasp on fantasy vs. reality.   For a more practical list of favorite baby books, see Top 10 Baby Books for Baby’s First Years.

    4.   The Baby Owner’s Manual

    Link:   The Baby Owner’s Manual: Operating Instructions, Trouble-Shooting Tips, and Advice on First-Year Maintenance 

    Funny Because…..At some point, a “troubleshooting manual” would really come in handy for that newborn of yours.  This book is great for the engineering “type” of dad.  (Mr. Mia loves this book).  For my favorite “troubleshooting” baby item, see Make Your Life With Newborn Easier – The Newborn Podster or see Top 25 Must-Have Newborn and Baby Items for a complete list of must-haves for newborns and babies.   




    5.   The “Mute Button” – Pacifier

    Link:   Mute Button Pacifier 

    Funny Because…..Because pacifiers do often mimic the “mute” button on a remote control when it comes to babies.

    6.   “These Fools Put My Cape On Backwards” Bib


    Link:   These Fools Put My Cape On Backwards Bib 


    Funny Because…..This bib is my favorite, and it makes me laugh every time I think about it.   For a list of our most practical baby bibs, see Top 5 Must-Have Baby Bibs, or see Top 25 Must-Have Newborn and Baby Items for a list of all must-have practical baby items

    7.   Mustache Pacifier -“Mustachifier”

    Link:   Mustachifier – The Gentleman Mustache Pacifier 


    Funny Because…It’s a baby with a mustache!  (Hehe!)

    8.   Weird-Looking Animal Bibs

     
    Link:   Animal Face Baby Bibs  



    Funny Because….I just think the animals have funny-looking faces.  For a list of our most practical baby bibs, see Top 5 Must-Have Baby Bibs (2013).

    9.   Daddy’s Little Tax Deduction

    Link:    Daddy’s Little Tax Deduction 


    Funny Because……Children really are tax deduction.  My friends who are accountants find this to be hilarious.   
    For a more practical list of newborn and baby clothing items, see Top 12 Must-Have Newborn and Baby Clothes.

    10.   The “I Only Cry When Ugly People Hold Me” Baby Onesie

    Link:   I Only Cry When Ugly People Hold Me on Infant Onesie

    Funny Because….Because people get really insecure when you let them hold your baby, and when they do, your baby starts crying.  For a more practical list of newborn and baby clothing items, see Top 12 Must-Have Newborn and Baby Clothes.

    11.   All My Friends Are Dead – Book

      
    Link:   All My Friends Are Dead 
    Link:   All My Friends Are Still Dead 

    Funny Because…..These books have a very clever, dark sense of humor.  This book is NOT for kids – it’s for adults (an interesting coffee table book that makes for a good conversation starter when friends come over).  It also makes a great “bathroom” book.  For a list of the best books that actually for for babies and children, see Top 10 Baby Books for Baby’s First Years.

    12.   Go the F**k to Sleep

    Link:   Go the F**k to Sleep 

    Funny Because…. I, personally, find this book funny, but this book will not be funny for parents who have perfect kids, or parents who dislike swearing.  This book is NOT for kids – it’s a parody of a children’s book for adults – specifically for adults who have struggled with “bedtime” and sleeping with children.  First-time parents (especially first-time moms who are still pregnant) will not find this funny.   For a list of the best books that actually for for babies and children, see Top 10 Baby Books for Baby’s First Years.

    13.   Belly Laughs, by Jenny McCarthy


    Link:   Belly Laughs: The Naked Truth about Pregnancy and Childbirth 

    Funny Because…..Jenny McCarthy “says it like it is” when it comes to pregnancy and childbirth  (from stretch marks to gas and much more).  This makes for a great baby shower present.

    14.   The “Pull to Sound Alarm” – Pacifier

     
    Link:   Personalized Pacifiers Pull to Sound Alarm Pacifier 

    Funny Because….Much like the Mute Button Pacifier, this idea holds true for many babies – pull out the pacifier, and the baby will be sure to sounds his alarm.

    15.   Shark Baby Robe

    Link:   Baby Aspen Let The Fin Begin Terry Shark Robe 


    Funny Because…Because babies dressed like sharks are adorable.  
    For a more practical list of newborn and baby clothing items, see Top 12 Must-Have Newborn and Baby Clothes.

    16.   Little Night Owl – Sleep Sack and Cap


    Link:    Baby Aspen My Little Night Owl Snuggle Sack and Cap 


    Funny Because….Because it’s a baby dressed like an owl!  This is actually a practical gift too because sleep sacks are actually something that you truly need for a baby (see Top 25 Must-Have Newborn and Baby Items for more practical baby items).

    17.   Animal Baby Swaddle Wraps

      
    Link:    Beehave Swaddle and Cap Set
    Link:    Sozo Baby-boys Newborn Puppy Swaddle Blanket and Cap  
    Link:    Swaddle Blanket and Cap Set – Ladybug


    Funny Because….The caps have little antennas and doggy ears.  How are these not adorable?  
    For a more practical list of newborn and baby clothing items, see Top 12 Must-Have Newborn and Baby Clothes.

    18.   The “Gimme a Kiss”  Pacifier 

    Link:    Gimme a Kiss Pacifier  

    Funny Because…because this pacifier will make your baby look like she’s giving you a kissy face.




    19.  I Drink ‘Til I Pass Out

     
    Link:   Baby Onesies – I Drink ‘Til I Pass Out Onesie

    Funny Because…..Not everyone will find the humor in this onesie.  This is a better gift for NON-first-time-parents who understand that a bottle/breast puts a baby to sleep (otherwise they will probably just think you are extremely rude and wonder why you gave them such an inappropriate gift).  For a more practical list of newborn and baby clothing items, see Top 12 Must-Have Newborn and Baby Clothes, or see  Top 25 Must-Have Newborn and Baby Items.



    Are we missing something?
    Share your funny baby gifts and baby items!  
    Leave a comment below.




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    Caprese Salad Recipe – Numminess Yumminess



    Ingredients:

    Caprese Salad with Pita Chips


    • Tomatoes – Vine tomatoes are great for Caprese Salad
    • Fresh Milk Mozzarella
    • Avocados – Such a yummy addition to the traditional Caprese Salad
    • Fresh Basil – “fresh” basil is key to deliciousness
    • Olive Oil
    • Balsamic Vinegar
    • Sea Salt  – It is very important to use sea salt (don’t use the boring kind of salt)
    • Fresh Ground Black Pepper
    • Pita Chips (for dipping)
    • Optional:  Toasted Pine Nuts

    Prep Time:

    • 15-20 minutes…….depending on how skilled and fast you are at slicing tomatoes, avocados and mozzarella

    Directions:
    Step 1 – Caprese Salad

    1. Slice tomatoes and mozzarella cheese in even amounts and spread them on a plate.
    2. Cut basil leaves into little ribbon-like slices and sprinkle them over the tomatoes and mozzarella cheese
    3. Slice avocado in medium-thin strips and place on the outskirts of your plate.
    4. Drizzle both the olive oil and the balsamic vinegar (65% olive oil and 35% balsamic vinegar) over your salad (be sure to drizzle – you don’t want to overdo it – you can always add more later
    5. Sprinkle sea salt and fresh ground black pepper over your salad, to your liking.
    6. Adding pita chips to this recipe seals the deal.  I spoon the salad onto each individual pita chip…so yummy.
    7. Optional: Toasted pine nuts can be a great addition.  If you choose this route, then make the toasting of your pine nuts your first step.

    Caprese Salad with Avocado



    Strangers Keep Referring To My Bald Toddler Girl as a Boy!

    My Beautiful Baldy Toddler Girl 

    I love the fact that my toddler is still bald – for primarily two reasons:


    Reason # 1 – She is still a “baby” to me, and I can pretend she isn’t growing up.

    My beautiful little daughter (20-months-old) is still a “baldy” in the hair department.  Her cute fuzzy, blonde little head is not much different than the little head that we kissed on the day that she was born.  I love that she is bald.  I suppose it depends on what you consider to be “bald”…she more or less has blonde fuzz.  I love her blonde fuzz.   Her bald (i.e., blonde fuzzy) little head makes her look like a baby (even though she’s actually a 20-month-old toddler).  So, for me,  it’s sort of like her “baby” stage has been extended, which makes me happy because I get really sad whenever I realize that she’s growing up; for instance, I cried last month when I realized that her 18-Month sized froggy footy pajamas no longer fit her no matter how much pulling I did (I did the same thing when she outgrew her Newborn size clothes, 3-Month, 6-Month, 9-Month, etc…you get it).  I had a similar experience when my daughter had to switch from bottles to sippy cups (See more on at My 5 Stages of Baby Bottle Grief).   My little baldy lets me think that I still have my baby, while still being able to have the benefits of a toddler (12-hour sleep stretches, more predictable naps, etc.).  


    Reason # 2 – I dread brushing the tangles out of my daughter’s future hair due to bad karma coming my way.

    I dread the day that she experiences her first tangle in her hair and then screams bloody murder at me as she throws the hair brush that she just grabbed out of my hair straight across the room and into a wall.  I was a terror when I was a child when it came to getting my hair combed.  (Mom, I am so sorry for what I put you through.)  I have some bad hair-combing karma coming my way.

    With all of that said, I love the fact that my daughter is bald with blonde fuzz.

    BUT…!

    My Baby is a GIRL, thank you!

    But I do NOT love the fact that strangers keep referring to my daughter as a “he” and a “him”….or as a “little guy!”  If I walk into a Subway restaurant one more time only to have the man standing in front of me turn around and say to my daughter, “Hey slugger!”….I am going to slug him in the nose!  OK fine, I realistically won’t do that….I’ll just keep getting irritated and then pretend to myself in my head that I flicked them in the forehead. 

    • Yes, I dress her in pink – 99% of the time.
    • Yes, she wears pink hats.
    • Yes, I’ve tried bows – she rips them off.
    • Yes, her sunglasses are pink with Barbie on the side.
    • Yes, she carries a hot pink Abby Cadabby doll.

    I’d like to propose a new “Rule of Thumb” for society to refer to when it comes to using pronouns (he, her, him, she, etc.) when referring to a baby they see in the grocery store:  

    PROPOSED RULE OF THUMB – Pronouns and Babies:

    • If the baby is wearing pink, it can be reasonably inferred that the baby is a girl, and therefore, the baby can safely be called a “her” or a “she.” 
    • Likewise, if the baby is wearing blue,  it can be reasonably inferred that the baby is a boy, and the baby can safely be referred to as a “him” or a “her” or “slugger.”
    I’d like this post to raise awareness on the issue of misusing the pronouns of he/she/his/her and on the role that they place in pissing off cranky moms (see 7 Things You Should Avoid Saying To a New Mom for more on cranky moms).  This is for all of my fellow moms out there who are like me – who may (or may not!) be irrationally oversensitive to the gender references that strangers use when referring to her baby daughter.  

    Does this happen to anyone else who has 
    a toddler girl with a bald/fuzzy head?



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                              Mommy Hack – Matching Socks and Laundry Time

                               


                              Mommy Hack:  Standardize Your Socks and Eliminate the Pain of Sock-Matching On Laundry Day

                              Buy a bunch of the same exact sock type to prevent the pain of matching socks.  (I had to save up my money for a couple months, but it was worth it).  Do this for your kids as well.  I’m sure  that you’ve heard of this hack before, but I am here to personally endorse this.  Thank you, Pinterest.  If you only wear a small variety of sock types – for example, ankle socks, crew cut, black/white, etc., then get a tub for each type of sock.  I have a tub in my closet for my (a) black work socks, (b) white socks, and (c) dress shoe socks.  I never have to match my socks when doing laundry, and the only sorting that I have to do is separate the socks into the three bins.  You can find great sock-bins in the Dollar Aisle at Target.

                              This is the greatest thing that I have done for myself lately.  It’s changed my laundry life.  Now, don’t get me wrong, I still use my Pack N Play as my laundry bin (see the post My Pack N Play Confessions for more on that),  but this little mommy hack has helped a lot when it comes to sorting laundry for my daughter and me.

                              It’s your turn!
                              What “hack” do you use that 
                              makes your daily chores easier? 

                              Share it with us by commenting on this post!

                               

                              My Lazy Mom Confessions

                              Here are My Lazy and Imperfect Self-Confessions:

                              (I think it’s safe to say that this is “Volume 1″…)

                              • I still wear maternity pants…and maternity shirts.  My child is 21-months-old.
                              • I still blame most of my shortcomings on being overwhelmed, tired, and exhausted from the demands of my newborn.  My “newborn” is now a toddler and is almost 2-years-old. (See You Know You Have a Newborn If… for more on my shortcomings due to my newborn).
                              • I still wear “pregnancy shoes” (aka, the shoes that my co-worked/classmate pointed at when was 6-months pregnant and said, “Ha. Nice pregnancy shoes.”)  I wear them every day.  My child is a toddler now.  
                              • I don’t remember the last time I wore jeans.  See my Love Letter to My Yoga Pants for more on that).
                              • I am on and off of the “laundry” bandwagon.  I am quite possibly the most irresponsibly person, in the world, when it comes to laundry.  I hate this about myself.  But I hate laundry more.  I’ve been battling using our Pack N Play as my gigantic laundry hamper ever since we received it at our baby shower.  (See post “These Are My Pack N Play Confessions.”)
                              • I bought a one-year gym membership. It just expired.  I didn’t go…not even once.
                              • I often find weird stuff growing in my fridge.
                              • “No one wants to clean the refrigerator  I find, because that’s when they find out how filthy that they really are…” – Ellen DeGeneres.

                              Share your “imperfect” self by confessing your imperfections in the comment box below.
                              (Throw me a bone here.)

                              someecards.com - I sure do feel a whole lot more attractive at Walmart than I do at the gym.
                              someecards.com - I would rather buy new tupperware, than bother to open this one to clean out whatever this used to be.

                                                

                              6 Types of People Who Do Not Deserve to Hear Your Shame Story – Web Favorite

                              Are you opening up and sharing your “shame stories” with with the wrong types of people, or friends, in your life?


                              Think before you speak, and make sure that the next person you share your “shame story” with truly has your best interest at heart.  In the YouTube video below, Oprah Winfery interviews Dr. Brené Brown and discusses how there are six types of people with whom you shouldn’t share your “shame” story with (from “one-upper” friend to the women at the mall that you try to prove yourself to and more).  She talks about the dangers of sharing your most vulnerable self with the wrong people.  This is very interesting , and is great advice to keep in mind.  I’ll definitely be including this in the “part 2” of my post, Top 35 Life Lessons, Wisdom, and Advice for Daughters and for Yourself.  

                              I think this is good advice, and I highly recommend watching the video.

                              Here is the YouTube clip of Dr. Brené Brown and Oprah discussing the six types of people that you shouldn’t share your shame story with:


                              YouTube Link:  6 Types of People Who Do Not Deserve to Hear Your Shame Story



                              Dr. Brené Brown is the author of the following books:

                              • Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead 
                              • The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are
                              • I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn’t): Making the Journey from “What Will People Think?” to “I Am Enough”


                                         


                              Share your thoughts on sharing “shame stories” by commenting below.  
                              (I would love to hear your insight!)